Pay Attention: Ways to Overcome Courtship Hiccups

The wisest prelude to a marriage is the courtship. The phase when butterflies in belly are just about trying to settle down, the newness of it all is thrilling but a sense of apprehension also pervades the courtship air.  Sweet nothings, wedding hustle, little disagreements and the horizon of singleton-welcome to the world of Courtship. 

Give yourself time. Game of Patience

If Marriage is a gamble then patience is the only ace. Give yourself and your spouse the required time to soak in the entire aura of getting married and spending the future together. During courtship we are often restless or even slightly confused as to how the wedding will shape up and even the companionship ahead. It is very natural for us to draw quick conclusions about our spouse or particular situation. Tailor your mind to avoid being too sentimental or judgmental. Allow yourself to gradually walk through the phase.

Let Trust be Major Force

In today’s urban universe, more than love one needs respect and trust to sustain a marriage. Have faith and little unquestionable faith on the relationship. This is the phase when you are laying down the foundation, build it on trust alone. Unwarranted suspicion and doubt leaves room for the spouse to deviate away from the bond. Make him feel at home. Undoubting faith always pays in future.

Explore your Companion

Quite naturally we tend to talk or share or giveaway lot about ourselves to the spouse. Try and consciously reverse the process during courtship. Make effort to know and understand your spouse. His hobbies, his ambition and his bucket list must be your top information. Often a quick class of Salsa or Work-out together helps to explore the inner self of your spouse. All of us have that impossible kid in us who refuse to grow up. Spend time with that kid in your spouse. All you know you will hopelessly get obsessed with this new-found soul.

Leave Alone the Past

Often we make this monumental mistake of dwelling into the spouse’s past. Too much curiosity will kill the crow. Avoid questions on his last relationship, girls he dated or the mistakes he made. It is very unnerving for an individual to be held answerable for something which is no longer a part of his life.  Be smooth, be easy that is how you will appear enigmatic to him. Make your companion feel future with you ahead is pretty hassle free and hands down fun.

Surprise Dates

Romance is clichéd, we often hear that these days. Trust us when we say this romance is meant to be clichéd and old school and that is exactly how it is most beautiful. Plan and plunge in the sweet-nothing dates and do it just to surprise your spouse. Movie of his choice, that work-lunch which actsas breather, his long favorite book parceled or whip up that dish he loves to devour-surprises are never out of date. These acts will add punch to this phase which is otherwise slightly draining with the wedding preparation. This is also the most adorable way to show you care.

Pre-Wedding Photoshoot

Pre-Wedding Photo-shoot during courtship is mandatory and it often helps to ease off any underlying stress. Pre-Wedding Photo with your spouse-to-be is a must-have treasure and also adds on to the zing. Just to keep the memories happy and hearty, these clicks should be all about candid shots. Natural setting, absolute fun pose and a story behind the click, the pre-wedding photo shoot keeps your courtship ultra memorable.

Little Family Bonding

Fortunately or unfortunately Indian marriages are giant family associations. Smooth and easy bond with in-laws helps the relationship during courtship or even after marriage. Avoid being too imposing with your choice or decisions on marriage. Be polite in putting your word forward but avoid petty skirmishes. Often little acts of kindness like shopping together or arranging dinner with both families bring the two families together. Hiccups or problems always disappear in an atmosphere of bonhomie. Every act that you indulge will only cement your marriage ahead.