Monday Motivation : Let's not kill the Magic

It is only natural to desire the things that are beyond our reach. It is human tendency to wish to covet something that does not belong to us. We are rarely satisfied with what we have and we seldom appreciate the existing ‘joys’ in our day to day life.

We’re all in this rat race , we all want that Mercedes Benz, that Chanel purse, that senior managerial position, that handsome man who is courting your elder sisters best friend, a girlfriend who looks like Megan Fox!

What is right in front of our eyes is often the hardest to see. Haven’t you noticed? It is always easier to appreciate the sweet corn soup your neighbour made when she called you and your wife over for dinner last month rather than the roast chicken your wife made last night .It was easier to notice that well dressed man at the supermarket the other day than the new haircut your husband got on his way to work last morning. It is a pleasurable activity to take your office colleague out to lunch but indulging with your wife for more than ten minutes makes you yawn and brings out the sleeping beauty in you.

So why does this happen? The answer my friend, lies in the two words – Routine and Monotony! To break it down for you, most humans resent routine. A routine is a pattern, a cycle that begins to seem vicious over a period of time and anything that distracts us from what becomes an everyday affair, naturally becomes an area of interest. People seek freshness and in the bargain forget to be grateful for what is pre-existing in their lives. Be it a person or something materialistic.

My purpose today for writing this piece is to alarm all the beautiful couples out there who have lost that spark due to saturation and monotony. It is a reminder to all of you that the person you are with is the person you , yourself chose to be with at some point. Today, I urge you to recall that feeling you had in your gut when you did all you could in your power to make the one you love feel appreciated. Refresh your mind to the time when loving your partner wasn’t a chore, it was what you wanted to do!

Of course, as time goes by, one gets into a certain comfort zone, just make sure that zone is not the place you take the person you love for granted. Over time, love takes a backseat but that is only because we allow that to happen. The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you see their flaws. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money, or under pressure or hungry.                                                       

Well, love is choosing to be with someone despite their humanly flaws. Love is patient and deliberate. Love is hard but rewarding. It is seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship.

This summer, take out some time and make the extra effort for your better half. A kind text message, a loving hug, a funny conversation before bed or a simple compliment is all it will take to reignite the missing fire and passion, I promise! We often say that the grass always looks greener on the other side, the truth is- the grass is greener where you water it. Let’s make a small change today and let’s not kill the Magic!