Looks can be deceptive - Why you should choose soul over appearance

Physical attractions may be important but that's not all it takes for a successful relationship. Physical attraction can bring two people together but it will not keep them together. Many of us think that singles only pay attention to looks and worry about personality later, and though this might be true for some, there's a majority that know better.    

Have you ever seen a happy couple walking down the street and found yourself wondering, “Why is she with him?” or “What does he see in her?” The thing is, romantic relationships run much deeper than physical appearances. It has been proven time and time again, without chemistry and personality, there's nothing concrete. Nothing that could really last. Most people who are worth investing your time in, are looking far beyond the surface of physical appearance. Looks are completely overrated when it comes to finding love and there's a logical explanation for this. 

Here's some evidence for why we should ignore our superficial instincts when considering whom to date...

1. We crave emotional fulfillment

The key to any successful relationship is emotional fulfillment. In order for a relationship to work, emotional needs must be met. When looking for a partner you want to find a person that fulfills those needs and makes you happy, and only a good heart and soul provides those things. 

2. Looks can only take you so far 

When it comes to romance, looks take a backseat as time goes by. Physical attraction is great but it diminishes once it is time to discover who a person really is. First things first, companionship, soul connections and deep conversations are what you will eventually crave. A pretty face with nothing behind it just won’t do. 

3. Looks can me misleading

You know that old saying - all that glitters is not gold, well, that holds true in this case to. Just because a person looks good physically, doesn't guarantee that they will be as spotless on the inside. For those who are new to the dating game, this point is especially for you - don't decide to date someone merely because they look good. Scratch the surface and dig a little deeper. 

4. Other traits can be more appealing 

Look back to the last time you felt you were in love. It's rare that you'll recall how the person looked. When you think back, you'll realize that what you liked in that person was not a physical attribute, but a quality that made you feel good, loved and happy. Whether it's kindness, courage or care, you'll be more likely to remember those traits rather than the outer shell of a person. 

5. Deep friendships aren't achieved by liking someone's appearance 

Deep friendship, emotional intelligence and the ability to work through conflict are the Holy Grail of relationship harmony. Without a deep bond of friendship, relationships barely survive. Having this positivity built into the relationship by cultivating an emotionally intelligent friendship will aid the couple in giving each other the benefit of the doubt, and help them maintain an optimistic view. 

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