Are you planning to get married to your beau? Here are some signs that say you're not ready

Marriage is a big step. It’s a life-long commitment. You commit to one person for the rest of your life and you are bound to them for a long-term. The person you love becomes a part of your life for good. You share your lives and home. It’s normal to get nervous and get cold feet before your wedding. Marriage is, after all, a big deal. But it’s also very important to know that what you’re feeling is just regular pre-wedding nervousness and nothing more. Sometimes people are unable to realise that they’re not ready for marriage and that leads to a disastrous marriage. Instead of dealing with all the pain and fights, it’s better to take a step back and rethink your decision than getting married and spoiling the beautiful relationship that you and your beau have. But how do you do that when you just can’t tell if you’re ready or not? You simply need to be on a lookout for some signs that point to that direction.

Here are some tell-tale signs.

1. You have an unresolved past. You have a big emotional suitcase and your partner bears the brunt of it. You still have feelings for your ex and are unable to let go. You have emotional wounds that are yet to heal and marriage is not going to help you or your partner. 

2. You have issues with commitment and you don’t feel comfortable with it. You are constantly thinking about how you’ll have to give up your freedom and you’ll have to belong to one person and you cannot simply drop them and jump into bed with someone else.

3. You have doubts about your relationship and your partner. You’re unsure of marriage and how things will work out. You are not 100% sure that the person you’re marrying is your “the one”. 

4. You have trust issues. You come with light baggage of your past experiences and that’s the reason you have trust issues. You cannot blindly trust your partner and fear being vulnerable in front of them. You want to get married in order to tie them down and not because you want to be with them for the rest of your life.

5. You keep secrets from them. You don’t reveal everything to each other and there’s no transparency between you two. No relationship can be built on lies or white lies or secrets. It does not do anyone any good when the lies and secrets come to light. It can cause more damage than you can imagine.

6. You and your partner have problems in resolving conflicts. You constantly have the same old arguments and are unable or rather incapable of resolving a conflict once and for all.