REAL reasons why is love never enough in a relationship for every 20-something

We all idealise love. The thought of it, the idea of it, the image of it - everything. It has become a huge part of our culture and lifestyle. Music, films, books and even documentaries are made on it. It has become the ultimate goal for all of us to achieve. We struggle and go through ounces of pain because of our high hopes and how much we have over estimated it. And finally, it is our relationship that pay the price. All this, becuse we have been taught that "Love is all we need" and in the process, we choose to ignore basic human values like commitment, respect, acceptance and all other factors of the people we claim to love and care about. Because love "solves" everything right? Wrong. 

Love is not enough and it is high-time we accept it. Love is not enough, and here's why. 

You sacrifice yourself

Not in the literal sense, but it might as well be equal to that! True, love does include making compromises for the other person and being able to care for somebody apart from yourself as well. This is what maks relationships work. 

But there should never come a point when one ends up sacrificing their dignity, ambition and self-respect for the other. A good relationship helps build on your identity to help make you a better person - the best version of yourself. Instead, relationships end up becoming abusive, with couples targetting at the other's weak point.

You ignore logic 

It is indeed possible to fall in love with somebody who does not treat you well. You do everything possible to get their approval and wait for them to treat you right - the way you deserve to be treated. But the unfortunate truth is that sometimes, you should not only fall in love from your heart but mind too. You need to be compatible with each other. And if you are not compatible from the beginning, nothing will change later.

You ignore the "signs"

The person does not change over night. There is a pattern. You need to keep a careful watch on how they treat near and dear ones. Are they respectful towards their parents and friends? Do they abuse them behind their backs? If they do, it is highly likely that they might be doing it to you too. And love is not going to solve that. 

You ignore problems

You might be madly in love with each other, but the fights still continue. People like Rihanna and Taylor Swift have romanticised the idea of being passionately in love one minute and screaming at each other, the next. Logically, that's not how it works. It leads to a stressful mental health situation which only adds on to the trauma of the relationship.

You are unhappy

One of the biggest problems that you tendto ignore, is that you are not happy. Your mind has been tricked into believing that you are happy, if you are with the one you love. But the harsh truth is that you can love somebody who doesn't make you happy. Love does not equal happiness. But the best part? You do not need anybody to make you happy. 

Love is consuming, but if we are not careful, it might turn us into somebody we do not recognise ourselves! Love does not conquer all. It is a wonderful experience that can end up being unhealthy too! 

But we should not let it define the people we are. Because the minute we allow it to do that we will end up losing ourselves.

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