Nine Realizations of a strong woman

“For she is the bird that knew how to fly but finally found her own set of wings”

Her teenage life is long gone, more than in years – in moments: she has fallen in and out of love, has had the worst friendship breakup ever, lost out on a opportunity she totally deserved, saw things collapsing in front of her and after tackling all of it – there she is, still standing strong, with her head held high – transforming into the person that she has become. A woman. A fierce WOMAN!

Listed below are the NINE silent realisations and transitions that a woman’s had and something that has helped her bloom.

Happiness is a right. Don’t make it a choice

She finally realizes and understands that the whole purpose of this life is to love yourself a little more and be happy. Happy – regardless of the waves coming over you, the sands burying your feet, the skies shining brighter than ever or the toned down gloominess taking over your sunshine. She understands that everything shall pass – everything is going to be alright and that she is content. Happily content!

Regrets hold no substance

Actions speak louder than words and correctly so because she realizes that the IF’s and MAYBE’s don’t hold any room for conversation, as that time has passed and no matter what you do, is never going to come back! So the door has been shut and the key to opening it back is with her but she happily chooses to throw it away in the sea.

Perspective

Her way of thinking and perceiving things have changed. She now understands YOU, understands the person that you are because she has grown beyond the concept of the right or the wrong.

Friendship

You realize that this is the wackiest-craziest and the strongest ship that was ever made. They are family beyond the bounds of blood. Even with all the insults. Yep! Period!

You forgive but you lose all your madness too!

Simple enough! We all have a certain amount of madness for every important person in our lives. Life goes through a hell of a ride but there are some instances that pinch you so hard that although you forgive that person, you somewhere lose all that madness you had and you know that there is no way that it can get back to what it was.

Parents have become way more weirdly important.

From Mum calling up, again and again, to ask if “khana khaya” to Dad making sure that you’ve reached your destination safe – we grew! Role reversal at its best. The love for them was always there, what added on or rather sunk in was the crazy amount of love that we have and how we just can’t do without them. From now keeping a tab on them checking if they had a safe flight, to taking them out on ‘dates’ and pampering them in whatever little way that we can – we are somewhere getting weirdly obsessed with them and in all fairness, love is all that they deserve and more!

You cannot love like how you did, but you can surely love better.

The way school and college romances etched your heart, is a way no other. Surely yes! Because all it takes is that one heartbreak for her to decide to distance herself away from the concept of love. Although she now begins to believe that its okay – its okay if it didn’t work out, its okay to not love like how she did because she can simply not give up on something that she has believed in for so long.

 Somethings find their meaning in their incompleteness.

“Because forever isn’t eternal. Forever is what you make with the time you have”.

All because your friendship or relationship didn’t sail through the test of time or didn’t turn out to become what you were looking for, doesn’t mean that it wasn’t real. Probably it was the most real thing ever! But what it lacked was timing or the backing of fate or simply that the other person’s purpose in your life was over and they taught you all that they could have and that you’d do fine without them.

 Y.O.U

That you’ve always been acknowledged as someone’s daughter, someone’s sister or someone’s wife – but where is all the meaning to what you’ve built? From school to college to work – strong, brave, unapologetic, opinionated and a voice for herself – because when she talks with confidence, the world listens. *Mic drop*

 “Somewhere in between all of this, a girl was transformed into a beautiful woman because it wasn’t the years that brought in the change – it was the heart!”