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Hello Therapist: The girl I like, want to marry earns more than me; I don't want to complicate it; Please help
Dr Rahul Ratan Bagale Psychiatrist & Psycho-therapist, Apollo Clinic Pune, is here to solve all your anonymous doubts. Check it out.
Hello Therapist,
I'm 35 years old and recently met a girl for an arranged marriage set up. We liked each other but she has a good salary than me and I don't want it to create complex.
Dear Pinkvilla Reader,
Conventionally, it was the husband who used to be the breadwinner for a family until recently. With progressive movements & women empowerment, we have seen many alpha females who have established themselves at top managerial positions in Government & Private Organizations. It is widely said that women of the 21st century have got enough empowerment, nevertheless now we need to teach men about how to deal with empowered women.
Marriage is not about competition or comparison with your life partner, in terms of achievements & financial earnings. Marriage is an institution where couples help & support their partner in the accomplishment of their life goals together, with unextended contribution from both sides.
Financial earnings is a poor criteria set by our society to judge about success one has achieved. Even, if you are earning less; neither you nor your future life partner should be concerned about it, beyond a certain reasonable extent.
I hope you understand this and focus on the beautiful journey of your marriage, irrespective of these salary differences. Just avoid any such complex in your mind, before it starts affecting your relationship. Love, respect and affection for your partner can not be earned through money. They need the investment of honesty and time. I hope you get it. Wish You All The Best!
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