Considering getting back with your ex? Few questions that you should ask yourself before making that choice

Don’t you think it is funny that to get together in a relationship there needs to be mutual consent but to break away only one person’s approval is enough? A relationship filled with love is both fulfilling and a high of a completely different magnitude altogether. It teaches you to live, be more alive, feel the gushing, cheeks turning red while blushing and a crazy amount of madness. Suddenly something hits you and like an avalanche, all of the madness comes crashing down. There’s a huge imbalance and an uncertain disbelief, wherein one of the two decides to take a step back or rather worse, break away; such is the power of a heartbreak.

While we usually blame ourselves or our partner’s (read: ex) actions, fate has an equally important amount of play. Love and attraction takes a whole lot of time to fade and inspite of getting separated those feelings start creeping in and bouncing back, often filling our heads with thoughts if we did the right thing by breaking up or if you the two of you should give it another shot.

Second innings have most of the time proven to be lucky for many couples but before you take the plunge for the second time, here are a few questions that you should ask yourself and if the answers bend towards the positive, you know what to do then!

On what grounds did you break-up?

An extremely important question that you must ask yourself before getting back together because many a times the reasons are extremely unfair and wrong; but the craving for the other person is so much that you cannot help but long for them and go to any extent to get back together. Figure out why did you’ll part ways, reasons like, compatibility issues, lack of understanding, time management, insecurities, are a few things that can be worked on given that both the individuals are ready to fight it together as one. If the reasons are infidelity, mistreating the other person or anything of that sort, then well, think twice and you’ll have the answer with yourself.

Why do you want to get back together?

Weigh your reasons, why do you want to get back with him? If the reasons are because of love, care and affection and you have a belief within you that you two can pull it off together, then you should definitely get back and reunite. If you are only thinking of getting back with them because you are emotionally dependent on the other or cannot do without them whereas they are least affected by all of it, then you are clearly better off without this relationship.

Will you give it your everything to make it work?

A second inning is never easy, all the baggage, hurt, fights and complaints need to be left behind in order to start fresh. Getting over love is never easy and we get so carried away that we just shut ourselves and stop thinking! We do not care if the relationship has no material left in it or it is completely toxic, all that we care about is being with that one person. Think, think hard, take control and charge of yourself, know if there is anything left to fix in the relationship or you are simply dragging it because your emotions are too fragile. Remember, it is always to end on a good note than to drag things and blow the beautiful World you’ll created in shreds.

Is your partner as sure as you about getting back together?

While you’re completely convinced and will do everything to make this relationship work, are you completely sure that your partner is on the same page? Are you sure that they are as miserable without you as you are? That they are willing to give it their all and not give up? If yes then you totally deserve to get back together and if he is just getting back with you as an act of sympathy then you should definitely not be wasting your time, energy and emotions on him.

A relationship is a blessing when you’re with a person who defines your World and makes it a better place and can also be a living hell if you’re just an object of showpiece for them in their lives. Think wise! Don’t always let your heart fool your mind!