7 Important things you learn from your first love

First love is always the unfathomable feeling ever!

Updated on Jan 18, 2019  |  03:16 PM IST |  3.6M

No one of can ever forget their first love as it will always be special. At least that’s what they say. Researchers claim that you never really get over them. While it may not define you for the rest of your life, the impact of it being the first is something that you’ll never be able to shake off. First love is so powerful yet innocent that they have inspired countless number of artists since the beginning of time. Regardless of how it panned out, there are several important lessons one can learn only from the first love. Check out these 7 important things you learn from your first love.

You learn about what you want in a relationship

Being in love for the first time, you learn what exactly you need in a romantic relationship. You learn more about self values, and the importance of being with someone who is on the same wavelength as you are. You get to know your likes, dislikes, weaknesses and more.You tend to understand yourself a little better in the process, creating standards.

Slow and steady

One of the most beautiful things about the first real love experience is that every single act, be it physical or emotional was a new milestone. Most times, you fall deep and hard into your first love, as you actually take time to form that emotion connection. This often helps you understand each other with a better understanding.

Arguing is normal

First love teaches you how to argue, defend and ideally resolve things. The realisation that you cannot always be on the same page as the other person on everything dawns upon you. Thus, arguing is perfectly normal.

It takes a lot of work

It is true that first love teaches you that it requires more than just love to keep things going. It requires compromises, communication, honesty, acceptance and more to keep it going.

Balance your relationship and your friendships

Being so much in love might result in you totally forgetting about everyone else in your life. While it is a huge mistake, everybody makes it when they're in love for the first time. Most importantly, it is a mistake you need to learn from because your family and friends are equally important.

Butterflies in your tummy will fly off eventually

When you are in love for the first time, those butterflies you experience every time you think of the other person, is something that you think will never fade. But hard lesson to learn is that they do go away eventually. It is not because you love them any less or have stopped loving them altogether, it is just evolution of the whole falling-in-love process. It basically means that you have reached the attachment stage where everything feels good, safe and comfortable.

You learn to move on

First love means, your first ever break-up. Losing your first love teaches you that although it hurts like something you’ve never known, you can survive a lost love. Not only can you survive it, but you become stronger and wiser in life.

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