10 ways to get over that toxic ex-boyfriend of yours

A breakup is never easy! After spending so much time with that one person and making him an integral part of your life, disconnecting and moving back to being strangers is a very difficult task. If it is an amicable breakup, then well, it’s just unfortunate that life went out that road but if your former partner, cheated, manhandled or didn’t treat you right, well then he is j**k who deserves no place in your life and any time being wasted on him.

Listed below are the steps that will help you get over your ex and never think about that douchebag ever again!

Acceptance

Acceptance is the first major step towards accomplishing any goals that we set and in this case, well, it is the task of getting over your ex. Accept that it is over, that he is no longer your boyfriend, that you have this weird void and that he is not going to come back. Accept that it is over for good, that you will be in a much better place once this phase is over.

DO NOT BE IN CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON AT ALL

Yes, do not fall for the “we can still be friends” trap. It’s a slow poison and probably the worst thing that you can do to yourself. For the gifted stalker that all of us are, promise yourself that you won’t turn into a psycho stalker (We know we can get out of control at times. #Guilty), that you won’t get carried away with your emotions and agree on everything on their terms. Block him immediately and see how you relax you feel about it.

Destroy everything related to him

Eeyep! I’m sure you remember that iconic scene from Jab We Met, wherein Shahid burns his ex-girlfriend’s photo and flushes it, well this is something along those lines. Instead, here, you are going to destroy everything that ever reminds you of him. His photo, your photos together, the gifts that he must have gifted you - destroy it all and be happy!

Pamper yourself - Makeover!

Yes, you deserve it! For holding on to it for so long, for dealing with all the madness that the relationship brought down upon you, you have all the right to reinvent and get yourself a new makeover! Book yourself a spa appointment, chop off your tresses, colour them in a super hot colour and let that loser realise what he lost when you walk down the roads making heads turn.

Guilty free shopping

Because once in a while it is justified. Shop from your favourite most brands, load yourself with blingy bags, sparkly shoes, glorious jackets and sassy dresses. The satisfaction that your heart will get after doing so is a feeling that is unmatchable. Let this online portal make money when you happily blow up your month’s salary! Go for it yo!

Your vacation

No wonder travel is so highly rated! It’s the best way of gaining momentum and realising a newer version of yourself. Gift yourself a vacation, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a luxurious international trip, it could just be someplace a few hours away or a weekend getaway! The impact, the effect will be huge and you’ll come back stronger as a different person and for the good.   

Dance nights away with your friends

Exactly, not one or two but nights away! The best therapy there is to sadness is dance. Be it off-tune, off-beat, desi, Michael Jackson inspired, waltz, salsa or your Ganpati dance; dance like no one is watching, dance for yourself, dance and surprise yourself and trust me the happiness that you will get a post that session, will be a feeling like no other.

Eat all the yummy food and desserts

Without measuring calories, without worrying about your weight, just eat away to glory! There’s a reason why good desserts are so expensive, it’s because they directly connect to the soul. No kidding. Take a huge tub of double chocolate chip ice-cream, or double layered cheese pizzas or hot saucy chicken wings, eat till your hearts are beaming, jumping and happy.

Bitch It Out

Trust me this works. There’s no better way than ranting your guts out to your BFF’s. Be an unapologetic complaint box, bitch about the times he ditched plans, when he turned you down, when he made you feel petty, when he didn’t treat you the correct way when he took for granted, rant it all out and feel your soul fill up with gratification.

The Secret

The most effective way to pull off anything that you desire. Write down about your ideal guy, write down self-motivating and strengthening quotes, write down your bucket list, write down things that make you happy, write everything that brings a smile on that pretty face because it sure as hell doesn’t deserve to sulk over someone who broke your precious heart.

Breakups are difficult but they aren’t the most difficult to get over once you realise your worth. It’s a part of life, a sad low that hits you but hits you for the good as it helps you from running into a tsunami of your making. So hold your head high and live your life to the fullest, till the time destiny plays its part and you bump into the man of your dreams. You’re born for greater things, don’t ever let a man make you doubt your shine.