10 Questions you really need to ask yourself before getting married

Being in love with someone is the best and amazing feeling ever. When you feel like you can connect and grow with that person, it gets even more better. The desire to get married as your emotions for each other swells is normal but overwhelming at times. Here are a few questions you need to ask yourself before committing into the institution called as marriage.

Why do you want to get married?

Start with this basic question as to why you want to get married. If you and your partner struggle to come up with an answer for this question, it is a sign that you need not bother asking the rest of them.

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Why are you in this relationship?

Is it because you respect, love, trust, and value the person you are with? Or because you're afraid of being alone, worried about finances, or have built a life you're scared to leave?

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Do you really accept one another?

There will be always certain things that you would want to change about the people in your life. However, no one should be in a situation where they feel they are restricted to be authentic, but instead, they should be accepted as the unique, special person that they are. Nobody is perfect and each individual has different perspectives about different things in life. The success of a happy marriage is when you accept your partner’s flaws and let them grow.

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Are you feeling trapped?

Do you really want to be in this relationship or do you find yourself wishing for a way out? Do you stay because you've invested time or are you really invested in your mate? Think deep about this one. Staying in the relationship just because you've invested a whole amount of your energy and time in spite feeling trapped will prove extremely unhealthy once you are married.

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Is your relationship balanced?

Do you think that both you and your partner are on the same page in terms of compromising, caring, supporting and sacrificing? Or is one of you doing most of the giving while the other simply takes you for granted?

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Does my partner have my back?

Do you feel like you are a part of a loyal team who stands up for one another, supports one another and shows a united front (even when the other is not around)? Or, do you feel like you're constantly being thrown under the bus by your mate?

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How will we handle conflict and rough patches?

Ideally, you already have a game plan to handle conflicts and arguments. But make sure that it is solid and that you will both stick to it for years to come.

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Can the two of you have fun apart?

You NEED to figure out if you both can have a good time with other people because codependency is not all that cool.

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Can the two of you have fun together?

Have you come across couples who sit across from one another in silence at dinner as though they are being forced to walk through the night together and wished that you wouldn't end up like that?

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Are you a parent or a partner?

Taking care of someone you love is a great thing to do, but when you feel like you're raising a boyfriend -- or worse, a husband -- things get a little complicated. After a point, you will start resenting their immature and childlike behaviour.

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